Dear Readers,
Apparently, I can’t write The Kale Chronicles right now: I can’t finish a painting. I cook very little and whatever I’ve cooked I’ve blogged about before. I cook oatmeal with milk in the morning for breakfast before I take the bus to downtown Berkeley to sing in the BART station. I eat leftovers for lunch. Mom has been cooking more and more since my brother Bryan moved in with us in July.
Bryan eats only fish, chicken and poultry in the animal kingdom. We recently bought a cheap supermarket turkey. Bryan prefers white meat so I took the dark meat and made turkey-apple stew, which I usually make post-Thanksgiving. What else have I made recently? Only gingerbread, adapted from Mollie Katzen’s recipe in The Enchanted Broccoli Forest. When Mom said twice in five minutes that she thought butter was wasted in gingerbread I substituted coconut oil to please her and I used buttermilk because our yogurt had turned funny colors. We ate all of the gingerbread.
What am I doing? I am cranking out words for NaNoWriMo 2012, often at 5:30 in the morning. I leave the house at 7:15 every weekday to sing in the Berkeley BART station, playing for tips. I get home before 11 AM. Sometimes I write then if I have slept late. Then there is that lunch, whatever is around — leftover turkey enchiladas, leftover turkey-vegetable soup, leftover pasta.
Yesterday afternoon I reorganized my bookshelves after Bryan installed a new double shelf for me: it took three hours to shift all of the books around twice. Yesterday evening I went back down to Berkeley to sing a song with my friend Carol to celebrate the victory of common sense over Measure S. a ballot measure that made it illegal to sit on the sidewalks of Berkeley. Then I returned books to the library, practiced a song I’m trying to learn to play for a few minutes and fell into bed with a book, nodding off to Anne Lamott’s always-entertaining prose.
Last week I worked a sixteen-hour day on Election Day, which rewarded me by hurting my back, leaving me unable to sit, paint or lie down: all I could do was walk or stand for a few days, take hot baths to loosen my back muscles long enough for me to get to sleep. That is past now, but I am woefully behind on my reading, writing and painting.
I am wondering if the blog has come to the end of its useful life. I will not make a decision about it this week. I am always worried that I will run out of recipes because, in reality, I cook the same things over and over and, right now, I am cooking from a limited palette of what is around the house and what Mom brings in from Canned Foods Grocery Outlet and Smart and Final. This is what happens to people who cannot afford to buy fresh, seasonal food. I never thought I would be in that category and I don’t expect to spend the rest of my life in it.
We have some produce: we bought five limes yesterday and I scavenged a pomegranate from the Election Day goodies. The tree in the front yard produces Meyer lemons and we have a bowl of our own apples sitting on the counter. I have been more than six weeks without my beloved farm box and I miss it but can’t pony up the twenty dollars a week it would take to receive organic produce again. As the weeks pass I think, “Maybe next month.” “Maybe in January.”
I am sure that many of you know what it means to fall behind financially. I track every penny of spending and income. I don’t buy much — bus and BART tickets, the occasional coffee when I need to meet someone in a public place. Soon I will need a pair of shoes.
But I met with someone today who may help me find writing students and I sang at the Farmers’ Market this weekend and my back is better so I will table big decisions for a bit and keep on keeping on in some fashion until I have clarity on what to do next.
Painting Notes: Meet “The Emperor’s New Painting” (There’s nothing there).
Hi Sharyn, no matter what is happening, it’s still good to hear of you and from you. As opposed to stopping blogging, maybe the blog will take a new turn? Frugal living is certainly an important subject to cover. It might not be as ‘glamorous’ as the farm box contents but it is about daily life, and for me that is just as relevant and important. You shed light onto a part of the world I feel I’m getting to know a bit more, and that is through your words (or paintings).
I know when I’ve been in the midst of straightened times (there have been a few!) it’s tricky to see the bright things in life, the brighter lights on the horizon; but you are writing and you are singing, you have a routine, you are exploring ways of eating and living. And without being voyeuristic about it, I know I would certainly keep reading. Your writing alone stands for itself. Its bloggers and writers and artists like yourself that keeps me blogging – hoping I’ll improve, maybe learn a little and experiences some more. For me writing like yours today gives blogging a relevance – it’s not about the glitzy twinkly oh-so-perfect world, it’s about real life.
Without being too selfish I say ponder on it, and then ponder again. Dip in and out when you feel like it, change it to suit what you are doing now, let it morph.
And while I’m here blogging, writing posts and commenting, I should be looking for new work – oh the irony!!
Thank you, Claire, for your kind words. Maybe I should try to grow some kale, thereby validating the name of the blog.
I could send you some seeds 🙂
I agree with Claire–your writing makes your blog. Shift the focus of your blog. Be eclectic. And if you had good recipes, you could still share them. And definitely grow some kale in a planter box–growing plants from seeds is fun. I’m trying to figure out where to put my own boxes in the spring.
Just don’t quit.
Thanks, Maura.
It’s the writing that I love, Sharyn. Hope you keep sharing your wonderful style and original world view with us. And the hand-made pictures are a delight. The subject of the blog is not as important as your incisive, truthful, lyrical communication.
Thank you, oh Caerus (who could be Karina or Suzanne speaking through the god). Don’t know what I’ll do yet, just know that the blog doesn’t fit as easily into my life as when I started it and that I need to focus on other things at this time.
Hang in there, Sharyn! Like the others, I enjoy reading about your adventures as much as the cooking. I feel your pain and don’t see how you’re even doing what you’re doing with NaNoWriMo, too. Maybe even try a break and post every other week for a while?
Thanks, Betsy. The big strain is to earn more money. I have a credit card debt to pay off — against my better judgment I put a dental bill on my credit card and haven’t had the funds to pay the balance. I know better than this, but I did it anyway. I haven’t sold a painting since August and I have no other sources of income right now except busking, occasional CD sales and the election that injured my back. I get through NaNoWriMo by just typing whatever occurs to me about my current life — I can edit it later.
Then maybe this blog is now going to shift to your musings about writing, singing, painting and teaching, with a few words about food interspersed as you fancy. You could describe your process when you begin a new painting, or the experience at the BART station… I hope you agree! 😉
I really don’t know what I’ll do, Granny — I just know I can’t do what I have been doing right now.
It is a good thing to be clear about what we can and cannot do. Admirable really. I must learn this. Be well.
Thank you, Granny. I am almost always clear on what I can’t do, but not so clear on what I can.
Sharyn, I know that we all go through tough times and I am wishing you all the best as you find the way through this ~ it sounds challenging and I will think of you and your wonderful creativity! Your storytelling is always superb and I am sorry to have fallen behind with you 🙂 Wishing you strength & courage from Vancouver!
Thank you, Shira. My challenges have nothing to do with my wonderful readers. I am weeks behind in my reading myself.
One thing that distinguishes you, Sharyn, is your honesty. You always come to the blog as fully “you” and that’s a wonderful quality. You haven’t made a secret of your shifts and changes in direction, and I enjoy everything you write. You write with a strange brew of vulnerability combined with great inner strength, and it seems to be particularly apt for the times we’re all experiencing. Nothing feels particularly certain for anyone, and you put a voice to it.
One of the things that has happened in the past year or so is people I had begun to care about as they share their stories in their blogs have just stopped blogging and disappeared. I have really felt sad about that. However, the day this no longer feels good for me, I’ll probably do the same.
I hope you find a way to stay connected, Sharyn. As busy as you are I can certainly understand that you may not feel committed to a regular blogging schedule, but feel free to redefine yourself. You’ll still find there are many of us who will always be glad to hear from you! 🙂
Thank you, Debra. I don’t know what I’ll do yet.
Sharyn, persevere. Your blogging community will provide the emotional support as well as the inspiration you crave. We’ve all been there, cooking the same old boring dishes. We love your stories and your recipes. Keep on blogging my friend.
Thanks, Eva. I’m not bored, just worn down by the challenge of chasing money and looking for new sources of income and being in a new relationship at the same time — I can’t figure out how to put it all together. When my back when out from working the polls I just had to stop and I don’t seem able to pick it up again just now.
Hi Sharyn – while perhaps I don’t face exactly the same challenges as you I know full well the potential hardships which come with blogging. I used to be at it non-stop… I could easily have spent 7 hours a day blog-hopping or working on my own site. Since the birth of my son I’ve found that not only can I no longer do that, but I don’t actually *want* to do that anymore. Of course, I still enjoy my blog and the community enormously… I have no desire to disappear, but I’ve had to cut down the time I spend by a *lot*. It should be something which you enjoy doing, not feel is a hardship.
I sincerely hope you won’t disappear completely, but I do hope you can find a way to solve your problems as well!
Thank you, Charles, for your kind words. I’m sitting with it for a few days to see what settles out on all fronts. Right now heavy rain is falling outside the window and I am glad to be warm and dry. It may be that I just need a few days off.
A few days off may be just what you need, Sharyn, to help you find clarity on what you should/want to do next. We have all being through those periods. Glad your back is feeling better. Hope you get many writing students.
Thank you, Norma.
Sharyn, I can’t tell you how many times I question whether all the wind has gone out of my blogging sails and if I’ll ever have another creative thing to cook or say that would be of interest to any living being. One thing it does do for me is keeps me focused, hones my writing skills, and my other half is most appreciative because I’m always cooking something new and if not perfect, hopefully interesting, in our kitchen.
I took a break a while back for about six weeks which helped me a lot. Still I’m not blogging like I was but still like to stick my marshmallow in the fire from time to time. I enjoy your blogs and your pics so will always stop by to say hello. 🙂
Thanks, Susan. I have another big writing project, a memoir that I have been working on for several years. I started the blog to develop a source of public writing and I have enjoyed it quite a bit. But when I started it I wasn’t in a relationship and I wasn’t scrambling for money: I could paint and write and cook for two or three days if I wanted to, spend a whole day on a painting. I could spend a whole day on a painting tomorrow, but that has gotten to be the exception rather than the rule.
I agree with the commenter who spoke about your emotional honesty. I love your blog and I read it because your voice is so unique and true, rather than because it is a “food blog” (although your food is wonderful). You’ve got remarkable courage to always write with such candor. I find it difficult; I tell myself that people wouldn’t want to read my blog if I’m feeling depressed and vulnerable and let it show, I worry about revealing too much to strangers and, more, to people I’m close to.
Please do keep writing. If twice a week is too much, blog once a week. If once a week is too much, blog once or twice a month. But please do keep blogging!
Thank you, Susan. I have wondered about blogging less frequently. I write everyday, sometimes just whining on the page, sometimes putting down details of my life, sometimes planning, sometimes working on my memoir, which has to do with my life with cerebral palsy and my struggles with money, art and romance. For a long time it was fun to write about food: now, not so much, without the ability to make more food choices (I still get to decide what to cook or eat but I am dealing strictly with what is already here or what Mom supplies in her weekly grocery run).
Hang in there… and yes, just blog whenever! It isn’t about how many posts… yours have quality!
Thank you, Rachel, for your kindness.
Sharyn, you have been an inspiration to me since I started blogging and it has been nothing to do with your recipes. It has been to do with your integrity and consistently positive view of life. From the preceding comments you must know how many you have touched. You are experiencing a dark period right now but it will pass. If you need to take a blogging break, so be it – your on-line community will still be here for you when you can return. Blogging is a creative and enjoyable way to connect to others but it is not a priority. What is important is to give all of the energy you have to your health and survival. My thoughts and positive vibes go out to you and your loved ones. You are strong, creative and resilient and I know that you will come through with flying colours…
Thanks, John. This really is about blogging for me at the moment — I’m having trouble with both painting and cooking: apparently, letting go of my vegetable subscription for financial reasons leaves me without inspiration. I’m still singing and writing and seeing Johnny, but I have nothing new to say about food right now.
Hi Sharyn.. I’ve been reading through all of the above comments and can honestly confirm all the sentiments that have been shared already. For me, blogging began as a way to “keep” our favorite recipes. It evolved from there to a journal of everything beautiful I see around me, focusing on even the tiniest bit of beauty because I was tired of the negativity that is everywhere. It evolved again and became a place to write poetry. It’s kind of my canvas where I paint with whatever I like.. words, photography, fabric, food..
Whenever I’ve had an inner voice that critiques or directs with “should’s” and “ought to’s” and “what if other’s think” I think “It’s my damn blog and I can do what I want with it” lol. I used to keep up a frantic pace, music every week, twice a week. I now take lessons every other week, my instructor thinks it’s much less “neurotic” this way. I’m not sure why everything in our society has become a race or a competition? Where are we headed in such a rush, why can’t we just “be” and “be” together? So I post less frequently now and am considering a once a week sort of deal, like John does. That gives me lots of time to visit everyone else over the week. I think you’re lovely Chronicles are just at a Turning Point.. the point where you can look back over your shoulder at what was, then look ahead to what is possible. Good luck! xx
Sharyn, I love the way you write. I love the way you structure your sentences. It reminds me of Hemingway’s “Big Two-Hearted River.” So I hope you write whenever you feel the words coming, and I hope you cut yourself some slack and don’t worry about this space when you DON’T feel the words coming. Know what I mean? As for whether you include recipes and food paintings, the internet is so abuzz with food writing in the winter holiday months anyway that I feel like I’m on internet-food-writing overload. Not that the food element of your blog isn’t wonderful–I just mean that I’d love reading whatever it is you’re thinking about, whether it’s singing in the BART station or painting other things you see in the world.
You are wonderful.
Love, Katherine
Thank you, Katherine. I imagine I will find my way back to the blog one day: I made another horrible food experiment during Thanksgiving week, a variation on a recipe that I had made successfully before — I would have blogged about it if it came out well but decided the universe was showing me I was not yet back in blogging mode. Meanwhile, I can read your blog and others I enjoy when I am not cranking out words for NaNoWriMo, singing in the BART station for tips or soliciting writing students.
I’m sorry to hear about all of this! But like the others I agree that we love your writing, and if possible, maybe you can keep it up at a pace that’s more comfortable .Also, it’s OK if you don’t have a new recipe every time!
I’m wishing you the best of luck on these hard times and I hope you do hang in there and things get better. And sorry about your back! That is so horrible… I’m having some back issues myself, but just from carrying too heavy a backpack — not as honorable a reason as you…
Take care, Sharyn.
Thanks, Melissa, for your kindness. My back is acting up again, has not been right since the Election Day marathon. I am going to add a daily walk into my morning after my “day job” and see if that might be enough to restore pain-free sitting.
Everything seems gloomy when you are in pain. Until I married john I was always financially strapped and it is a dreadful pressure( – sometimes I could not afford tampons, that bad!). Four kids, rented houses, not enough work. And the worry never really leaves you, and then if you are cold, tired and your bloody back hurts, you get to thinking that you need to jettison some burdens. This is often a good decision. However, so as not to lose the wonderful support you get from your readers, maybe make a decision to only blog when you have something to say. Allow yourself this freedom. I have not blogged a piece of food in weeks, I am a dull cook at the moment, not enough time to write and cook. But everything changes. Everything. This too shall pass. Have you finished your nanowrimo? c
Yes, Miss C., I finished NaNoWriMo two days ago with 50,434 words of memoir. My back is still acting up, making it hard to work at the computer for very long, but I am making an effort to walk everyday to stretch it out again.
My readers, as you see, have been wonderful and kind. I feel bad that I haven’t been able to produce anything for them. I agree with you that everything changes: right now my busking career brings in a little more than fifty dollars a week, with the daily take slowly creeping upwards. I am hoping to start teaching writing practice classes in January and need to write publicity materials for them and to teach an introductory evening sometime soon. If I have two regular sources of income life will be a little easier.
Thanks for stopping by on the eve of your grand adventure. I do hope you have a wonderful trip and come back refreshed.
You are strong and determined, in fact more determined that many people I know, and slowly you are developing a financial core. I still wonder though whether you could not set up some kind of casual internet editing page, where a writer like myself could send you a piece and you could make notes like you did for me that one time and send it back. For an emerging writer, begin able to employ someone at a reasonable price would be incredibly useful. And most of us do not need a critique yet, just a clean up pre critique. Does that make sense? The writing classes sound great! Have a great day.. c
What a good idea, Celi. I could call it “First Look.” maybe just make it a page on this blog. What would be your idea of “a reasonable price?” I did write my course descriptions and, if all goes well, will be teaching an introductory evening on December 18th, hoping to attract students for a six week class beginning in January.
I look forward to following your New Zealand adventures.